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dpickard

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Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« on: December 30, 2016, 02:43:45 PM »

Sitting here wondering about something...

Are we alone or does setting up in a new location sometimes bring out the worst reactions/behaviors in couples? 

I am truly ashamed to say that more than once lately I have caught myself responding in a really irritated way to my wonderful husband while busily performing set up duties and being interrupted for whatever reason. Or wanting something done in a different order than he was thinking and getting aggravated at that.

Another one is when the neighbors call out to the significant other and you are wanting to finish getting set up before you go off to socialize.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #1 on: December 30, 2016, 02:57:18 PM »
I get a bit tiffy when setting up and things aren't done in order. Unfortunately my DW takes the brunt of this (with me getting snippy and/or giving her dirty looks)and she's only trying to take some of the pressure off of me. Ever since I had the stroke, I have to concentrate a bit more, and doing things in MY order helps me not miss steps. Fortunately, she understands and doesn't hold it against me. And no, I don't like socializing with neighbors setting up or packing up to leave.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #2 on: December 30, 2016, 03:01:54 PM »
I can believe that fuses are shorter at setup. Especially if its after a long day's drive that was preceded by an early-morning decampment. Summed up, it makes for a tiring day.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #3 on: December 30, 2016, 03:07:16 PM »
I never have that problem, but then again I am single. :o
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #4 on: December 30, 2016, 03:10:43 PM »
I never have that problem, but then again I am single. :o

So you are extra grumpy....lol
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #5 on: December 30, 2016, 03:17:45 PM »
I/we may be getting ready to experience that in the spring when we start using the new T.H.  Our old enclosed trailer that we sold to buy the T.H. had everything in a certain place and we had setup and broke things down so many times in the previous 5 or 6 years that it was just boom, boom, boom and we were done; each having their own responsibilities.  Next spring, we will be starting that learning curve over with a new T.H., everything in a different location, added things to do because of going from an enclosed trailer to a "camper" trailer.  I'm thinking that we are going to go to a nearby campground that is 8 or 9 miles from our house this coming spring and do a test run/check it out type setup.  We'll probably take notes and then try to make an orderly procedure checklist of how to do everything once we get to the racetrack.  We'll see!
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #6 on: December 30, 2016, 03:31:51 PM »
I used to be that way, but after many years of setting up and taking down, we both have our own chores, and both go to it without bothering each other.
 She has a heart of gold, and I don't know how she ever put up with my yelling. Thankfully I mellowed with age.
 
 
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #7 on: December 30, 2016, 03:34:56 PM »
So you are extra grumpy....lol

You'll get no argument on that from anyone here.

I get really irritated when 'she' wanders off to visit someone and leaves me to do everything.

Oh heck, who am I kidding.  I have a long-ish list of things she's done that get me grumpy.  But she has her own list too.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #8 on: December 30, 2016, 03:50:36 PM »
So you are extra grumpy....lol
Right now I am extra grumpy. I just got my dash cam in the mail and it doesn't work. I paid extra for two day shipping so I could use it this weekend and now that is not going to happen.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #9 on: December 30, 2016, 03:55:06 PM »
We often camp with a group, so the wander off thing is a real problem. But once we're parked, we have our own chores that get done at thier own pace.

Then it's my turn a grab a cold one and wander off.

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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #10 on: December 30, 2016, 04:33:34 PM »
all I have to do is plug in the coach, hit the level switch and get a beer
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #11 on: December 30, 2016, 04:35:43 PM »
all I have to do is plug in the coach, hit the level switch and get a beer

Wow. That sounds like a lot of work. Better get 2 beers.   ;D
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #12 on: December 30, 2016, 05:33:35 PM »
Our systems works good for us.  When we get to the site if I don't need help backing in (which is rare), the DW takes the dogs for a walk to do their thing after traveling, and by the time she gets back the coach is level, slides out, utilities hooked, and awning out.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #13 on: December 30, 2016, 06:03:40 PM »


Yes, JackL  we have actually been RVing for 40 years. We have our own chores but routines get interrupted for various reasons and being creatures of habit I have been getting frustrated when that happens. Just wondered if I was the only one.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #14 on: December 30, 2016, 07:19:43 PM »
  I also don't have the problem,,I do it all at my own pace and occasionally get help if needed and asked for...BUT,,,,I don't do the cooking, laundry,,dishes..make the bed,,shopping,,or pay the bills...SO I GUESS I'M THE WIIINNEEERRR!!>>>Dan
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #15 on: December 30, 2016, 07:27:33 PM »
You mean you actually get help setting up?
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #16 on: December 30, 2016, 07:45:02 PM »
I get shouted at during the backing in process if my instructions on turning are not done early enough. I get shouted at even louder if this happens in the dark. Unfortunately this just makes me burst out laughing and the angrier he gets the more I laugh. Sometimes we both laugh or he just grumps till he gets a beer.  :D but it works both ways..... we don't hold grudges  life's too short.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #17 on: December 31, 2016, 09:56:41 AM »
  I also don't have the problem,,I do it all at my own pace and occasionally get help if needed and asked for...BUT,,,,I don't do the cooking, laundry,,dishes..make the bed,,shopping,,or pay the bills...SO I GUESS I'M THE WIIINNEEERRR!!>>>Dan

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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #18 on: December 31, 2016, 10:52:15 AM »
No grumpiness. I think that's mostly because of practice since early childhood.

Back when I was in the TT full time to place, drop, setup, and level in a full hookup spot with manual screw support jacks and the awning out could be done in about 20-30 minutes.

With the MH and hydraulic jacks 10 ... ;)

Tear down is the issue right now, we are just moving in and that is hell.

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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #19 on: December 31, 2016, 11:44:59 AM »
Sitting here wondering about something...

Are we alone or does setting up in a new location sometimes bring out the worst reactions/behaviors in couples? 

I am truly ashamed to say that more than once lately I have caught myself responding in a really irritated way to my wonderful husband while busily performing set up duties and being interrupted for whatever reason. Or wanting something done in a different order than he was thinking and getting aggravated at that.

Another one is when the neighbors call out to the significant other and you are wanting to finish getting set up before you go off to socialize.

Have you given him a list of what should be done in a certain order?  Is he unable (or unwilling) to follow a list?


I'm going to assume that if someone comes up to talk to him while he is setting up - he feels it would be rude to say
"I can't talk now I have to setup first", and it becomes very easy to lose track of time and what your supposed to be doing.
Is it possible for you to be somewhere near him while he sets up and if someone approaches YOU could take over talking to
them while he finishes setting up? 

Have you ever thought about giving your "wonderful husband" some slack when this does happen?
I mean - is this something that happens every time you setup or tear-down or only 10 or 20% of the time?
If you have been camping for 40 years there may come a day when he's not around. 
Are you going to remember the good times or the times he irritated you?  JMO

It seems that after this much time together neither of you is going to change very much.  Have you told him how much
this issue bothers you?  Do you know how to paint a word picture?

It also seems like a fact of life that when 2 people are put together there are going to be some differences that you don't like
about each other.  No one is perfect and even happy appearing couples have an issue every now and again.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #20 on: December 31, 2016, 12:16:14 PM »
When we arrive at a new site, I do the basic leveling and running out the slide while my wife starts on the bathroom and kitchen setup. When I head outside to do the power hookup and satellite dish setup, she handles getting the computers, etc., in place and fired up. Water and waste hookups come later if needed, as do the awning, outside chairs and tables if we're staying long enough to want them. If either one of us is feeling poorly, the other one is quite capable of doing the entire setup, and I don't recall that we've ever had a cross word during the process. Even for the rare times when I ask for assistance backing in to a site, we have a well practiced set of hand signals and never need to yell anything back and forth. Maybe it comes from over 50 years of working together towards common goals, but I don't recall us ever yelling at each other except when distance or background noise required it to communicate, never in anger. Life's too short...
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #21 on: December 31, 2016, 01:09:43 PM »
This is one topic that reminds me how much we love to boondock. Find a spot,hit the leveling jacks, open the slides and dw takes out the weiner dogs. I grab a cold beer and ease into my favorite chair. As others have said the length of stay at any spot determines what things get spread out. Week plus meand 12x12 mat with chairs and small tables. Packing up the wife has caught on and does her thing, per my satisfaction. Nothing gets "thrown in" to the toad just to hurry up. Takes time. If you want to hear some colorfull conversation...bringing the boat back into slip after a full day is not for the faint of heart......
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #22 on: December 31, 2016, 01:18:34 PM »
Our systems works good for us.  When we get to the site if I don't need help backing in (which is rare), the DW takes the dogs for a walk to do their thing after traveling, and by the time she gets back the coach is level, slides out, utilities hooked, and awning out.
X2 ...only we wait until we are backed in; then DW walks the dogs (although since our last camping trip we are down to one dog) while I do the setup. Usually takes about 15 min. When I am done setting up, DW and Lulu have returned from their walk, and there is a cold beer waiting for me. Life is GOOD!
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #23 on: December 31, 2016, 07:12:36 PM »
Well setting up and tear down is much easier than getting there, she does what she does and I do what I do and about 20 min we are done without a harsh word. Traveling is another story.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #24 on: December 31, 2016, 08:02:17 PM »
Once I get level-----------mostly without blocks, the Wife goes inside and does a few things while I hook up electric and cable and we are done for the most part.  Sometimes we need to hook up water, and sewer but only if we are staying several days in one spot. Then and only then will I set up for DISH Satellite.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #25 on: January 01, 2017, 04:56:32 AM »
My wife used to yell at me a lot during set up! Like if the LP was turned on yet, if shore power was plugged in, etc.  Did I care?
Not a bit. We had a routine. Once parked, we both understood that our routine for set up was down to a science. No auto-levelers, manual awning, the whole thing. We each had our jobs to do and set up was complete in less than 30 minutes. Even when we were pulling a PUP (pulling out the beds).
We just politely told potential interrupters that it would be a few minutes.

It just boiled down to finding that routine that works. Understanding what each others role in the set up routine consists of. The yelling gave me a clue to just where she was in her routine. I welcomed it.

In no time we were relaxing and enjoying our surroundings.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #26 on: January 01, 2017, 09:09:40 AM »
When we get to the site... the DW takes the dogs for a walk to do their thing after traveling, and by the time she gets back the coach is level, slides out, utilities hooked, and awning out.


X3.  Easy peesy. 20 min and done. If we're dry camping or only hooking up electric, even faster. Only exception is when we're really settling in for a few days so rolling out our "lawn", setting up dog fence, chairs, etc, then we do a few of those final bits together after the "house" is setup and dog walked.
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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #27 on: January 04, 2017, 07:09:39 PM »
I drive alone and sit up alone most of the time.  Hubs may be going with us some later.  I don't know how that
will work.  If its a pull through and I'm going to stay, I generally unhook the toad first.  If its for the night I
hit the level button, once that is done, plug up electric, then water.  Last is sewer and I dump the tanks, leave
the grey water open as I do laundry.  That's it, doesn't take long but I have a little routine and don't like being
interrupted.  It's not a problem though when sitting up, but I don't want to be disturbed when I'm getting ready
to leave, afraid I might miss a step.

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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #28 on: January 14, 2017, 03:57:25 PM »
 :) Every now and then, my husband and I can get a bit snippy...however, this is more so, when we arrive later toward evening after a day of driving.  Generally, that type of driving will be a rarer occurrence now that we are retired, and not in the mode "of have to get there at a certain time schedule, and drive so many miles a day."  We each have our set jobs at set up, and usually quietly get to work, when done have a beer and relax..it is all good.

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Re: Setting up upon arrival at your destination
« Reply #29 on: January 14, 2017, 08:52:16 PM »
The one part of setting up where my wife knows to leave me alone is when I'm searching out that elusive little hole on a heavily treed site where I can successfully aim the satellite dish. The site we're on in Georgia today is like that. When I pulled out the tripod and dish, several neighbors that have been here awhile told me to forget it, reception was impossible. We just finished watching the Pittsburgh/Detroit hockey game (6-3 Wings! Yea!) on the NHL channel on the Dish eastern arc...  ;D
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