#2 - never say never, but starting the generator while plugged into shore power isn't a good idea. The problem is the transfer switch will transfer directly from shore power to the generator and this can create voltage and current spikes that can damage either the transfer switch or electronics in your RV.
AC power fluctuates between positive and negative polarity 60 times per second. Professional transfer switches will only transfer from one source to another when they are in sync with each other. The transfer switch in your RV lacks this protection.
It's designed to connect the RV's load to a single functioning source, either the generator or shore power, not to switch between the two.
Along the same lines, make sure you don't have any heavy draw devices like a heater or the air conditioner turned on when you start or stop the generator. Again, it's a matter of preventing damaging surges. Making the transfer switch connect to a power source when there's a heavy load connected to it will stress and burn the contacts in the switch.
Shutting down the generator while it's under a load will stress the voltage regulator by making it go to full output trying to keep the voltage up as the generator slows down. Also, you need to run the generator for a couple of minutes under a light or no load before shutting it off or the hot engine will bake in it's own heat.