Okay, I'm backing off the cargo van idea as a tow vehicle at least to start with. I won't bore you with why but what I wanted from it will be way less often needed than what would actually probably work better with a crew cab PU and a lockable toneau cover or cap.
What I think I have found is a small car/truck lot that I've passed many times and barely noticed, where owner, service manager and other key employees have been there for years. They have great reviews (the kind that look quite real) and from what I can tell they target local repeat business and word of mouth. I'm going to go there this morning and was told the SM knows towing very well, that he'll sit down with me, hear what I want to tow and carry, and then recommend specific truck choices. (MECCA!) Then when I'm ready, if they don't have it, they can look for it specifically as they visit auctions. Their inventory leans toward GMC/Chevy clean-used. It appears they price "fairly." Not 'blow-out cheap' where you kinda wonder, and not high from what I can tell. But if I have confidence vs. skepticism, that's worth a lot. I'll know if they're what I think they are, when I get there.
You all have may never know how much you have helped me in this thread, and I strongly suspect there will be others who'll come across it as time goes on who will also be extremely helped by it. You've explained A LOT! Thank you very, very much. I'll come back to it in case of replies, and of course, if I need to verify anything further will ask. But {{{BIG HUGS}}} in the meantime. Whew!