I guess my first question would be - is it okay to go off topic? I see other threads meander a lot. I've seen board moderators step in if it gets political or testy but ... we're all in the same forum, right?
Anyway - I read an op-ed piece today from a woman who couldn't understand why an adult approaches a bunch of loud teens and is automatically apprehensive. I think I have a few ideas.
My family was pretty pathetic. Alcohol, mental problems - not a good atmosphere. Still, I was raised to say "please and thank you", to help others, to be polite to elders, etc. When I was a kid I got in a ton of trouble but ... we tried to do things out of sight of adults and authority. Today, it's flaunted, with the "whattya gonna do about it?" mentality. They know we won't do much because we don't want to get hurt or sued. And when I did get in trouble, no one bailed me out. I recall wrecking the first car I had at 16. My parents insurance was cancelled and it was one of two times I saw tears in my dad's eyes. He was a very proud AAA member for decades and I blew it for him. I spent most of the next year without wheels, working to pay my parents back. another time I had a very bad afternoon and racked up about $500 in traffic fines (remember - this was the late 60's! It would be thousands today) and had no money so I was sentenced to 30 days in jail. A friend's parents offered to bail me out if I would paint their house. So, I hitchiked/walked/bummed a ride to their house for weeks and painted the house.
I don't want my kid to learn lessons that hard but I do want him to learn. And it's kind of the "light one candle in the darkness" thing. For every punk and for every parent who's botching their job, maybe I can offset at least one of them by doing my level best to raise a responsible, honest, polite, level-headed kid.
This forum is a bit like that. With all the craziness on the roads, in public places and the disrespect we often deal with daily, it's nice to have a little haven where folks are nice and willing to give advice and to even disagree with respect. So there - this last paragraph is kind of on topic, right?