Thanks for the information. I was imagining 3 kids stuck in there for 3 solid days of bad weather!
To answer your more specific weight questions, since you have crunched enough numbers for this to (hopefully) make sense.
Every RV will have a "few" weight ratings associated with that rig.
GVWR is the most the fully loaded rig can weigh with all your gear loaded.
Curb wt is how much the empty coach weighs with only a full tank of fuel.
GVWR MINUS curb wt = how much weight you may add, or CCC - Cargo Carrying Capacity.
Removing the couch and changing water heaters WILL change Curb wt. and CCC.
If the propane tanks were full when it was weighed, then propane need not be included in CCC
GCWR is the max weight of the loaded rig and anything being towed. Here is where it can get confusing.
FOR EXAMPLE, assuming an RV Curb wt of 17,000# GVWR of 20,000# and GCWR of 25,000#,
You can load 3000# of stuff into the RV and still tow 5,000# of Prius and tow dolly.
You can load 2,000# of stuff and have 6,000# of Prius, car trailer and other stuff on the trailer.
You CAN NOT load 4,000# of stuff in the RV (RV overloaded) and 4,000# of Prius and dolly.
Remember to include the hitch weight of the towed in the RV GVWR. Also check the hitch capacity.
The real answer to your towing question lies in the actual weight rating of the RV in question. Some smaller Class C may not make it. Larger Class C gas should be acceptable. While the numbers may say yes, do not expect to maintain 60 mph going up W VA hills! The diesel is clearly more powerful (torque at lower rpm) pulling the hills, and, as you already know, more expensive.
Some other questions come to mind. By your last post, I suspect you have already considered these items. I do not need answers, but you should consider them!
1. Do you have income to cover this year? RV life is NOT cheap! Many campgrounds with full hookups run $25 - $40 per night. At $35 per night, that is $1050 per month campground fees. Driving the RV at 7mpg can get expensive, too! There WILL be RV maintenance costs as well. You still need to cover food, clothing, medical, ...
2. I assume you are currently in a home / apartment. What do you plan to do with the 80% of your stuff you can not carry with you?
3. It sounds like you plan to "rent" the RV for a year, then sell it and move back to a brick and mortar home. I strongly suggest buying gently used. If you go new and finance the rig, a year from now, you will owe significantly more than it is worth.
4. If you have never gone RVing before, I suggest renting a Class C about the size you want to buy for a week. It will be worth every penny! You will quickly learn if this is do-able for your family. You will learn if this size will work. You will fine tune your floor plan needs in a way nothing else can do. You will come up with a whole new list of questions.
5. I assume you will be home schooling. Make sure your floor plan will fit this need.
6. Lock the 3 of you into the camper you want for 4 hours. Check all seating and sleeping positions for comfort and privacy. Is the bathroom / shower big enough? Is the kitchen workable for a year of meal preps? After ONLY 4 hours, are you all still comfortable, or ready to escape before you kill each other?
The truck / FW option is possible. I spent $40K for a 3 year old NICE truck (see my sig) and $26K for my FW. Plan on another $5k for fixing it your way. You do not need to spend quite that much, but it can give you an idea...
Compared to the Class C, you will love the fuel economy when towing, and hate the mileage when not towing.
I hope this clears the water more than it stirs the mud! Keep asking questions!