This has been the best response "for me" as yet.
I have measured the drop when hooking the WDH. I know it's right. What I'm getting out of this is, most of you assume that I have over-loaded, or that my TV isn't up to the task. I have wondered that myself, but I can assure you that I haven't over-loaded and I have owned trucks in the 250 class, and I tow heavier loads than my TT. I have checked the towing capacity on all the HD trucks, and none can match the Tundra. The Tundra has more ft lbs of torque than any of the other HD vehicles in the 250 range. I don't have any problem with power. I did put 10 ply tires on the truck and it did help some because I can safely put more air in them. I will admit that the Tundra probably isn't as strong in the rear suspension as a HD vehicle, although with the towing package, they make it stronger than the ordinary 1/2 ton truck, which they claim matches a 3/4 ton.
My question was; is it normal to feel the suck and push when a big rig passes. From here, and talking to friends who have large TTs, I have gotten my answer....it is normal.
Thanks for the input.