Tin man said:
Ken;
My brothers name.
Our lives seem to run parallel. I also held a second job, (several) my bride does not believe woman should not work. Should not be dependent on spouse. After children were in school she went back to work. A second pension, it was her money.
I think our choices were inspired by our parents and how they lived. As they say the "Apple does not fall far from the tree."
This parallels a lot of my life. Only instead of a second job, I worked all the overtime that came up, and lived on my base pay, banking the OT money. I always based my ability to pay back loans on my base pay income, not including the overtime money I earned, which easily doubled or more than doubled my base pay earnings. The reason I did this, is because I watched people I worked with fret, whenever overtime was cut due to budget cuts, but the big house, or luxury cars they bought, still had the same payments, but they didn't have the same income to pay these loans with.
My other half is retiring in 18 shifts from the Fire Department, she will begin collecting her pension at the end of the year, followed by Social Security a few years after that. She plans on working part-time for the next few years in the medical field, until her Social Security kicks in, then retiring completely. So from the perspective of having enough income to live on, we should be all set, as long as we don't go crazy in our spending.
I learned to save from my parents. They lived through the depression, and told me many times, how bad things got. They both came from large families, 7 and 8 kids in each family, and my grandparents all came over from the old country, and all supported their families the best they could, especially through the depression.
My parents were each big advocates of education. My cousins and I were the first generation in our family to go to college.
My parents both had government jobs, as did all my aunts and uncles, because of the job security and benefits. If there were five things I learned, it was to have job security of a government job, health insurance, a pension, borrow as little money as you could, because of the interest you'll have to pay on the money you borrow, and to save money, and NEVER dip into the principle.
This advice has served me well. Not so much for my kids though, who have decided to live for today, and tomorrow will take care of itself. But they are starting to come around, and are at least starting to understand, as they have kids of their own, that they need to plan for the future, and not just have the newest and best I Phone, cars, and other trappings, which are really above their means.
Some people never learn though!