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Charlie 5320

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #90 on: February 11, 2017, 01:32:27 AM »
UPDATE

News not so good. Ever since the radiation she has been going down hill. She was in the hospital most of Dec. and the Dr there said we need to look into hospice. She continues to get chemo, but it isn't doing much if anything. She has lost over 70 lbs now and is skin and bones, getting very weak. She is still trying to work but only makes it about 3 days a week. She's such a bull head, but she knows if she don't push, she will lay here and die. She hasn't driven since Nov. but i take her and pick her up, when ever she calls. The pain is so great now that they have have her on morifine tablets and I give her some liquid morifine when she needs it, only a couple times a day. It's a terrible thing to see some one wither a way like this, but I'm going to take care of her till the end. She's not going to hospice, but I'll probably need some help in house. I'm having a temp wheel chair ramp installed in the garage so I can get her the Drs. I want to thank everyone for all the prayers, much appreciated.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #91 on: February 11, 2017, 06:19:56 AM »
Prayers sent.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #92 on: February 11, 2017, 10:04:14 AM »
Prayers sent from us as well.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #93 on: February 11, 2017, 11:35:45 AM »
Prayers sent and God bless you both.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #94 on: February 11, 2017, 11:54:40 AM »
You're a good man, Charlie.  Stay strong.  Remember to take care of yourself mentally and physically as well as caring for Donna. 

You probably know that hospice can come to your home - they have a world of practical experience helping folks deal with very difficult and unfamiliar circumstances.  They're very helpful.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #95 on: February 11, 2017, 02:14:54 PM »
Unfortunately I have been involved with hospice for 3 of our elderly over the last 5 months. FIL, mom and aunt. All passed comfortably while under hospice care. Each one of them declared that they were ready to "go home" and home they went. Hospice is a great organization to help when end of life is imminent.
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #96 on: February 11, 2017, 02:18:30 PM »
Strong comforting hugs to you and to your darling wife.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #97 on: February 11, 2017, 03:11:52 PM »
We're thinking of you both and wishing you the strength to get through this very difficult time.

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #98 on: February 11, 2017, 04:13:50 PM »
You and her are in our prayers.  Please don't hesitate to use home hospice because, as you stated, you will need help and they can take a lot of the load off of you. 
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #99 on: February 11, 2017, 04:55:52 PM »
I had early stage breast cancer last year and i know how scary that was.  So i cannot imagine what you two are going through!  Prayers will go up for you all.  I hope they can treat her and get her back to healthy.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #100 on: February 12, 2017, 05:01:03 PM »
I have a tear rolling down my face. I don't know what else to say.
Give her all the love you have to give. She might just pull out of this! You never know!

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #101 on: February 12, 2017, 08:17:55 PM »
You and your wife are also in my prayers. 

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #102 on: February 13, 2017, 06:01:58 AM »
Prayers from Deb and are still going your way.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #103 on: February 15, 2017, 05:57:32 PM »
Been there, 3+ year battle and did what you are doing. However, after the best of care that I and our dear neighbor Valerie, a home assistant with Ambercare Hospice in Belén NM could give from June after we returned again from MD Anderson (Love those people and place,) I needed to make it more easier for her.

After Labor Day I knew she wanted to die at home and i wanted her comfortable. Fentanyl worked for her, she refused all morphine. Ambercare Hospice sent their "angels" into our home, our animals could give her the love and presence she needed and a dear friend who worked in Special Ed in Gallup took a week of sick leave to be with her 'sick" sister in Christ. I was with Bev from 2 AM chating  until I drove to the airport to get Bp Bill who flew back from Africa to be with us. She was gone when we pulled into the driveway, home with her friend Jesus and her parents. . .   Hospice is a gift from God originally started by churches. . .
 
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #104 on: February 16, 2017, 08:08:27 AM »
You and your wife remain in our prayers. I went through several years of radiation in different areas, I still have problems from the radiation even though the cancer is in remission. I say I am a survivor and was blessed by God to still be here. Don't give up. I admire your tenacity to do what you are doing. I retired from a very good paying job to take care of my wife when she fell and broke both her legs. She is somewhat well now but still has a lot of pain in her legs. We both look at life as we are blessed to get up in the morning and continue to do the things we are able to do. Some day the things we do will become more and more limited but hang in there. It sure sounds like she is a fighter, God Bless you and her.
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Charlie 5320

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #105 on: February 16, 2017, 09:29:40 AM »
We had a consultation with the Dr. yesterday. I asked the Dr. what the difference is, the cancer taking her or shes starving to death. My wife an I have decided to quit taking the chemo that is making her so sick. The chemo is irritating her stomach so she can't eat without puking it right back up. She lost another 5 lbs last week. She doesn't have cancer of the stomach so she should be able to eat without getting sick. I have talked Donna into only working a few hours a day to see if her body will heal a bit. She don't want to quit working, because she says she needs the exercise, both body and mind. She told the Dr. she wasn't ready to give up, and the Dr. told her there are some new drugs approved but not used much yet. Donna said she wanted to try them as long as the didn't make her sick, so they are going to try something new. The cancer markers are on the rise again so they weren't working for her anyways. Guess we'll see what the side effects are on the new chemo as they will start it Monday.

Thanks for all the prayers, we sure need them.  Charlie. 
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #106 on: February 16, 2017, 12:01:52 PM »
Hang in there. The fight is not over!
Continued thoughts and prayers.
Mark

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Charlie 5320

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #107 on: March 02, 2017, 08:23:04 PM »
Well she is doing better since the new chemo, still fighting the stomach irritation from the last chemo. Her older sister is getting married again and she wants to go. Sister is moving from the east coast to the Oregon west coast to marry a guy she's been chatting with for 6 years. So I just made a deal on another MH and will pick it up Sat so I can get it ready for the trip the end of May. She always wanted a coach with slides and I didn't, she got her way this time. The MH is the only way I can see for us to make the trip, just don't see how we could manage the airport terminals with her being so sick. This Dolphin is  pretty low mileage and a lot fancier than I'm used to. We have two weeks between treatments, and I think we can make the trip in that time.  I believe her cutting back on work hours has helped the most but she won't admit that. I've never been out west so it'll be something new for me too. I did go to Colorado a few times elk hunting, and Las Vegas gambling a time or two 40 years ago.   
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #108 on: March 02, 2017, 08:45:48 PM »
Well, that's great news that she's doing better. I think you'll learn to enjoy those slides, too. Hope things go very well for you.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #109 on: March 03, 2017, 06:02:15 AM »
We're glad to hear she's doing better. Deb and I will keep the prayers going.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #110 on: March 03, 2017, 02:02:55 PM »
Hey that is good news! Our prayers will continue too. Enjoy your new RV! You're gonna love the extra room the slides give you.

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #111 on: March 03, 2017, 02:57:30 PM »
It's good that Donna is doing better with the new treatment - long may it continue. I hope the trip goes well and you both enjoy the wedding celebrations.  :D
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #112 on: April 18, 2017, 08:27:27 PM »
UPDATE 

Well looks like there will be no trip to the west coast for us. Donna has taken another turn for the worse. She put up a hard fight but it was not meant to be. She decided a few weeks ago to stop all chemo, because the cancer was still growing and pinching off the colon. We put in for medical leave from her job and got it a couple weeks ago, too weak to go to work. She has been pretty much bed fast for the last 10 days, I had a hospital bed delivered 10 days ago because I was having a hard time getting her up to go to the bathroom. Her boss arranged for her to have a recliner that helped her get up at work, she had that chair delivered the same day they brought out the bed. She hasn't been able to use it for the last 5 days, she's in too much pain to sit up very long. She told me today she's ready to go. I talked with a hospice nurse last Friday, but told her we weren't ready, maybe I'll make the call tomorrow.   
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #113 on: April 18, 2017, 09:30:29 PM »
I'm newer to the board but have read a lot of you and Donna's journey. My DH's late wife fought a long battle with ovarian cancer. Her faith in the Lord was strong and she knew He trusted her to carry the burden. You are not alone in this journey and there are many of us, however far and unknowing we may be, that are here. DH said one of the hardest things was seeing her go through so much pain. All you can do is take one day at a time. You are strong enough... as difficult as some days may be. Prayed for you both.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #114 on: April 18, 2017, 09:54:36 PM »
You're both in our Prayers.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #115 on: April 19, 2017, 03:23:17 PM »
Thinking of you both, it must be very difficult.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #116 on: April 19, 2017, 07:03:41 PM »
Hospice angles await your call. . . The helped my Bev so very much. I keep praying for you both.
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Charlie 5320

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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #117 on: May 19, 2017, 08:33:03 PM »
This morning at 5:21 I lost my beloved wife, best friend, my rock of 35 years to cancer. The lord reached down and said pain no more my flower, and took her home. Hospice stepped in and helped me a lot after
I made the call. I don't know if I could have done it without them. I know she got better care here at home than any hospital would have provided. For others that may find themselves in this situation call hospice early, they are great.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #118 on: May 19, 2017, 09:09:47 PM »
From the two of us, you have our deepest sympathy and condolences. She's in a better place now.
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Re: Prayers needed
« Reply #119 on: May 19, 2017, 09:42:07 PM »
Deepest sympathies to you sir. Lots of us on this board are thinking of you.
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