I was told by the RV service tech that the brakes won't lock up on a 7000 pound trailer. I would think that they should but o well.
Pat
My belief is that you do not want to ever lockup trailer brakes, unless want to become a member of the jackknife club. That is why they give you a brake controller. Especially with ABS on the tow vehicle. Any wheel that is skidding, cannot be controlled. It may or may not follow the truck. If the trailer brakes lock up, your best hope is that the truck and trailer are in a straight line on a flat surface. On rain/snow days, I back the controller down a bit and leave more space in front of me.
Another opinion on dielectric grease, is that it keeps the contacts from oxidizing and the contact surface cool under a loaded circuit. It does this while allowing the electricity to flow through the grease. Pull manufactures cut sheet off the web on their Dielectric grease to clarify the proper application.
Is your truck a Ford? I have two friends that had the same problem with their 2022 trucks. In their case it required a factory firmware update, twice!! Go figure, everything is now a smart controller. Good luck. Dennis