That's bizarre! Wish I had a clever diagnosis for that, but I'm thinking it's gonna take a lot of measuring and conjecture about possible interactions. Almost sounds as though a breaker is tripping and flipping the headlights resets it somehow.
I have some questions about "use the Jake brake?".
1.Is it really a Jake (internal engine) brake, or is it an exhaust brake?
2. Does "use it" mean turning on the switch to enable it, or actually employing it to slow down?
3. Is the throttle electronic (drive by wire) or mechanical? I thought the 1996 era was all mechanical linkages, but am not familiar with Country Coaches of that period. Does "deactivated" mean you can push the pedal down but the engine rpms dpn't change? Even though the engine is still running?