My mom is going through the same struggle. She's 93 and once her progressive Alzheimer's made it impossible to live with my sister we had to place her in an assisted living home about an hour away (we couldn't find caregivers willing to come out to my sister's rural home). She's now bedridden and after a couple of emergency hospitalizations last month we made the painful decision to bring in end of life hospice care and let them administer whatever happy drugs they thought were appropriate. We still visit her weekly and it's heartbreaking to watch her decline.A little perspective on Alzheimer's. My 2nd best friend died from it a year ago. His wife said his Alzheimer's was a blessing in the end. He didn't have any "good" days during his last few months. The "good" days were nice for his family but not for him. He knew what was happening and was very cranky and depressed not only about himself but what would happen to his family. But when the "good" days were over the rest of his days were happy and peaceful.
My wife said Delaware legalized assisted suicide so we won’t have to worry about who might be tasked with taking care of us if it comes to that.MY prayer is not to put my family through that!