Tom, I didn't like the idea of only hitting one cross member in my roof with that large Satellite dome. So, I had a metal shop make me a 3/16 thick aluminum plate to fit across a forward and rear cross member, and mounted the Dome to the plate. The Plate in turn was screwed down to both cross members.
The Dicor sealant is the best thing you can use to seal holes in your roof. It doesn't go on smooth, and looks bad at first, but will self level out.
You can try using a stud finder to locate the aluminum cross members, but don't put a lot of faith in it. I used one and what it located was not the cross members. Fortunately, my cross-members were steel, thus the magnet worked fine. If you think you find a cross-member with a stud finder while on top of the roof, try to find the same on from inside the coach. If you locate it in the same spot, it may indeed be the cross-member.
Good luck to you. It is scary drilling holes in a perfectly good roof. but the Dicor will seal it.
Rex
2001 Monaco Diplomat being pushed along by a Saturn