I've had 4 different trailers, 3 travel trailer and 1 fifth wheel. I've had 4 different tow vehicles, None of them locked up the trailer brakes at 50 mph even with the gain set on 10.
My current truck has an integrated brake controller. I keep the gain set on 10 (highest). Why? because with an integrated system, the trailer brakes will brake in proportion to the brakes on the tow vehicle.
If the gain is set to max, when pushing the brakes at max in the tow vehicle, the trailer brakes are maxed also.
If the trailer gain is set on 5, the controller is pushing out only 50 percent. So, if the vehicle brakes are slammed on at 50%, the trailer brakes are actually only 25% (half of it's full potential).
That is how an "integrated" system works. At a setting of "5", the brake controller is always going to spit out half of it's full potential. At 3, it will always be 33%, at 6, it will always be 66% (or close).
That's probably one reason why the trailer brakes don't feel like they are actually braking. Your tow vehicle is braking 100%, your trailer is braking proportionally based on your setting.