I just recently joined this site as we are researching the travel trailer options for our 2013 Honda Pilot 4WD w/4,500 lb towing limit (using premium grade fuel). The OP must have 2016/2017 Pilot which has the 5,000 lb rating. There were some inaccuracies in the above comments I should point out. Since at least 2012, Honda has used the 2 passengers at 150 lbs with 15 lbs of gear each and a full tank of fuel in its max towing allowance. Not only do extra passengers and gear reduce the limit, but elevation also reduces the capacity by 2% for every 1,000 ft of elevation. Prior to the updated 2016 Pilot, all 4WD Pilots since 2009 came with a class 3 hitch and trans/power steering coolers. A pre-16 4WD Pilot has a 6096 lb GVW, a 9579 lb GCWR, and a 1,340 lb carrying capacity, which is reduced by the tongue weight of the trailer and the WD hitch. Like many others with their tow vehicles, I, too am concerned about weight and looking at trailers with a dry weight below 3,500 lbs...some with single axles and some with tandem axles. As there are just the 2 of us, like the OP, after subtracting the tongue and hitch weight, there is approx. 450 lbs of carrying capacity left. And yes, adding load capacity to the vehicle reduces the towing capacity further. With clothing, food, household utensils/tools, folding chairs, hoses, carrying 10 gal of water, an ice chest, 2k generator, and 10 gal of propane, my rough estimate totals to about 600 lbs or so, or about 4,100 lbs + or - for a 20 ft trailer (total length). I have have pulled a uhaul trailer of approx. 2500 lbs from the Central Valley over the Grapevine to LA with a 2005 Pilot and it felt like nothing was back there and with that same Pilot, pulled another Uhaul trailer weighing about 1,500 lbs from Tucson (over 700 miles) with no issues. Mileage on both trips was about 16 mpg as well, though I am expecting 10 mpg towing a larger/heavier trailer. Another positive is though I hear (and disagree) with folks towing their trailers at 65-75 mph, California has a 55 mph limit for all trailers (I have never exceeded 60 mph when towing) which is far easier on the vehicle doing the towing while providing far less wind resistance. The weak point of towing with a Honda Pilot are the soft touring tires. I intend to replace my tires soon with 107/XL rated tires that provide a 50lb psi max to stiffen the sidewall and reduce heat buildup. The 235/60-18 size makes for very very few choices in LT rated tires. A strong point with Honda are their engines. To get to their peak power band, they need to rev and Honda engines are made to rev....unnerving to many people. And lastly, increased maintenance is critical to preserving the mechanicals...not just changing out the transmission/transfer case fluids, but also the rear differential fluid at 15,000 mile intervals. The trailers at the top of our list are the Rockwood Mini Lite 1909s, the Winnebago Micro Lite 2106FBS (this is a 2 axle 3700 lb dry trailer that does make me a little apprehensive to be honest with fewer lbs of added weight to work with, but its narrow width and aero shape are positive attributes), and the Lance 1575 (the lack of a bathroom sink is our issue with this trailer). All of these trailers have slideouts which is a feature at the top of our list for a small trailer and these trailers have hitch weights between 225 and 440 lbs. Even with a 450 lb hitch weight max (w/o WD hitch), I intend to use one. There are a couple of 3-4 years old Rockwood Mini Lite/Lance models with 2 axles that have dry weights at just below 3,500 lbs I would consider. My choice of looking at tandem axles (and the extra 200-300 lbs of extra weight) is solely on my feeling that this would track better and handle bumps better than a single axle coach. So far everything we have looked at far exceeds the 1981 Wilderness 17 ft Lite we had back in the 80's/early 90's. We pulled that loaded 3,000 lb trailer with a 165 hp Chev K-5 Blazer and 210 hp GMC Sierra. At the end of the day, I have no worries about pulling a 4,000 lb 20 ft trailer with a Honda after my own experience and what I have researched and heard from others.