If the connector is a 4 pin flat connector then
The "Different" pin is ground and the one next to it is tail lights.
Check to see if power is going that far... I happened long ago on a 3-LED tester with pass through .. using this device I can plug it into the motor home than plug the car into it.. Works very well (or did long story there, still does actually just no longer needed)
They also make testers without pass through those are way easier to find, I have 2 of them and one remains plugged into the flat-4 connector all the time (Since I got the LP 1 on the new towed, I use a round six pin to hook to car (The long story, new towed)