It depends (no, not Depends). In my younger days, before the meds I'm on, I used to socially drink. Not a lot, but enough to loosen up my mouth. So, I usually joined in with as much blabber as the next guy. Nowadays, however, drinking is pretty much prohibited because of med conflicts. So, though I still participate, I usually don't do it with the gusto I used to. My wife plays it differently and people seem to love it. She is not a social person and really dislikes having her personal space invaded by anyone, including me sometimes. But, her way around this, which seems to work well, is to ask questions of the visitors. Now, she does listen and the questions she ask usually will draw out an individual to the point that all she has to do is listen for a while. If you sit and watch her work, you will realize she hardly said anything other than ask questions. It is almost never about her (not like someone else we all know). It works well for her. I wish I had her knack sometimes.
