RVMommaTo6 said:
If the silence is awkward, it means you're uncomfortable so the real question should be, why can't I relax being in a room with someone unless there is a distraction present?
You could try a few things: 1- blare music so nobody hears the silence. 2- yell "did you hear that?!" as soon as there's a break in conversation. It'll take everybody's mind off of the silence.
The reason i called it awkward is because it never fails, there is always an inquiry as to what i am doing. Sometimes i like to just sit there and let my mind wonder, i might be looking out the window or looking at the TV but in my mind i am off in some other place. I used to just sit there sometimes on the sofa looking at the ceiling but then came the questions "what are you doing" and others, and all that stuff and having to explain killed the mood. So then i started putting a book in my hand but that didnt work either because then they would say "its been 30 min and no page turn, are you that slow at reading". It just seems that sitting there and not doing anything but day dreaming really annoys them for some reason and i dont know why, do they have to ALLWAYS be in my head and know what im thinking, i hate that stuff.
It would be fine if they just ask one time and i said "just day dreaming" or "nothing" and that was that, but they have to pick at it until i give them some BS excuse as to why im just sitting there not paying attention to anything around me. Sorry but yes sometimes i like to zone out my partner and just be alone in my head for awhile but i guess they cant take that.
I think i speak for most guys when i say there are only a few things in our heads to choose from (sex, the yard, outer space, mechanical related, work, or just nothing at all). I think that is one of by biggest anxieties about relationships is that i feel i always have to be entertaining, sit properly, eat properly, dress properly. Seems im always being rated or reviewed, and i hate that stuff.
Why does silence have to mean anything at all but what it is?